Kara O Kane

I’m Kara O’Kane and I used to want other people to save me...From the outside, it looked like I had the perfect life : A handsome and successful husband, two of the cutest children in the world, a big, fancy house near the ocean in Southern California, a community of country club friends and financial abundance…But on the inside, I felt empty, anxious, overwhelmed and lonely. I spent all of my time supporting my husband’s career, taking care of our children and attending events with women I’d never actually want to be friends with.I spent a lot of time trying to be grateful for what I had, not wanting to complain about a life most women dream of having.I tried to “fix” myself by practicing mindfulness, meditation, and self-help tools I’d learned as a spirituality-minded therapist – but I still felt angry, empty, and alone.The world around us says that we should be happy with what we have. That we, as women, either have to have a huge career that takes up all of our time, or devote ourselves to our children and our husbands.It tells us that we should follow the rules, be grateful for what we have and stop complaining. It tells us that we should give up what we want in order to support our family and everyone around us.